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Jon and I had everyone work from home today. We have the house to ourselves, so rare a happening. It’s so peaceful. We’ve just done lunch, and now it’s time for the romantic part. What I had in mind was something more traditionally romantic, that would be difficult to do with a staff running about. But, I’ve let Jon pick his idea of romance. What did he pick? That we clean and organize his office.
Now, before you go, oh how unromantic, let me explain. I did a day where I helped him clean off his desk and begin organizing. It was great, his desk and the surrounding area is clean, neat, and useful. Then BLOOD NOIR ate the world. I haven’t had a chance to go back and help him again. I promised him I’d help him with his office. He’s been understanding, but I promised. What is romantic to one person has a lot to do with what makes them feel loved. The traditional flowers and sex, is only a small part of romance, actually. Because true romance makes a person feel loved, wanted, cared-for. To Jon, me keeping my word, is important to him. It makes him feel loved. Organizing his office makes him feel loved. Using my ability to organize, which is not one of his strengths, makes him feel cared-for.
What allows me to be okay with this being what we do on our romantic afternoon with the house to ourselves is the fact that Jon makes sure I get my idea of romance on a very regular basis. We both like the sex and flowers part of romance, but we both, also, have a list of things that don’t seem very romantic, but if that list is neglected the hearts and flowers begin to wilt a little around the edges.
Love means different things to different people. It can even mean different things when your lover is in different moods. That’s pretty tricky, but true. So, buy that rose, but remember that the way to your lady’s heart may actually be doing the dishes, or helping put the kids to bed. The way to your man’s heart, may not always be sexy lingerie, but actually showing a real effort to be interested in his hobby. I’m off to make my sweetie feel loved and cared-for. He’ll get his chance to return the favor soon enough.